FLDS - Polygamy

as some may know the FLDS compound in Eldorado, Texas in the US was raided some weeks ago and 400 children were placed into children services amongst allegations of child abuse and underage marriages and pregnancy. the authorities acting on a tip of from an alleged victim, claimed that there were many under age girls who were pregnant or had had babies to older men they had been forced to marry. i have followed the church stories for some while now and am quiet interested in it. it began to raise international headlines after Warren Jeff's the spiritual leader of the church/sect started to move "selected" individuals from an original compound in Utah to the new Eldorado compound. splitting families and strict new rules were put in place. then Warren jeffs was committed to rape, accomplice in rape, forcing a 14 yr old to marry her adult cousin, and fathering a child by a 12 years old.
when the children were first taken they refused to tell authorities what their names were or identify their parents and many men are still not claiming who their children are out of fear of conviction. and the mothers are also keeping quiet.
some families are now being returned with couples going on record to say they are in monogamous marriages

personally i dont think i have a problem with polygamy hell i might even think its fun (okay this has stemmed probably from my love of the polygamy drama Big Love, excellent show with Bill Paxton!!)
but really each to their own. i dont think that marriage should be opened to more then 2 people (although i think that if its legal in your birth country it should be recognizes in a country u migrate to) but i dont think it should be illegal either. as long as they are committing fraud, abusing children into marriages what does it matter?
many people have secret second families out there and id probably kill Adrian if he had a secret family, but i sometimes think it would be cool to have someone els here, like when adrian is it at work and i need looking after, or when u want to go out somewhere and none of ur friends are available your sister wife would be. (okay maybe i couldn't handle adrian sleeping with his second wife lol but i could handle me sleeping with her LOL)

Chemo Sideaffects Sucks!

i was originally going to have this is as my status in facebook
but decided to vent here instead so i didnt get a million msgs on my wall and inbox asking what is wrong

so i woke up all crappy today which is unusual for a day after chemo i normally get a delayed reaction of nausea that hits me on Thursday or Friday.

so i was going to post it as my status but thought it would be best to do it here
anyway these are the side effects i could live without

1. nausea it sucks and i have a low tolerance for nausea lets leave it at that lol
2. the 5 tablets i have to have to get me going in the morning then tablets during the day to keep me going that dont take it completely away and i have to have food with it which is hard when ur nauseas
3. the bad taste (like metal) u get in your mouth that changes the way everything taste and turns u off some foods and makes u like others arhh!
4. the heighten sense of smell which sounds cool like a super hero or something but sucks when u put ur fav perfume on and it instantly makes you want to be sick and u really cant wash it off once its off even more irritating if u work it yesterday ( i decided against the match lipstick once i had that reaction lol)
5. the tiredness and exhaustion u have all the time, like today i fell asleep for 3 hours and when i woke up whwn adrian got home i thought it was 5.30 on thrsday morn and adrian was leaving work without saying goodbye. or two weeks ago when i slept all friday i fell asleep on my bed in the middle not even on pillow or anything. and two days before that feel asleep in front in my computer chair ( thats a bad influences i have picked up from Michael a fb friend, luckily today i new i was falling asleep and went up to bed before i did in the chair again. Lucian would of thought i had keyboard marks on my face.
6. putting on weight so im in between sizes again and have nothing to wear :( enough said !!!
7. losing my hair, makes me cold now , and leave me me with less clothing options , hair goes with everything!! actually ill only winge about the hair on my heads its cool not having to shave
8. bad memory i have shocking memory at the moment i forget days and what i did and what im doing i dont even remember the next thing that was on this list lol
9 so ill make one up (im actually not lying though) my uncontrollable thirst god and its not for water that i absolutely love and now cant drink cos of the mental taste (this has now turned into tow reasons) no i cant get enough coke, well diet coke, with ice, and the best cokes are the extra large ones form maccas i drank 3 of the the other day one after the other man which leads into my teeth feel like they are just going to fall out! god a big fear
10. now i remeber the real next on the list which was suppose to be up a bit higher so it can slip in unnoticed amongst the other gripes since ill be tagging this one
is sex now that im on chemo which is toxic chemicals beeing pumped into my body we cant risk passing these on to adrian or falling pregnant ( ohh the irony!!) and i cant go on the pill nor do i really want to so we had to use condoms. yik anyone who knows me i dont like them everything about them and they know why so i wont go into it too much information lol (however im not agisnt other ppl using them for safe sex purposes but since im married i cant hate them if i want to )
11. cos im on chemo i cant fall pregnant so its putting my life on hold! it sucks i wanted to be on maternity leave by now (with actually the 3rd baby!) but instead im on sick leave so this sucks and now im not working and in debt its going to hard to save and justify to others going back to ivf after chemo. arrhhh!

okay enough winging and im typing this in Siberia (which is actually warm tonight and i have no jukebox cos the net hates me using i tunes at the same time) so i keep getting bumped off thank god for auto save!!!

ciao (omg influences from aus chat yet there is Colombians in there again!)

jamata ( i wish i could speak fluent Japaneses

пока (ok i dont know russian i just put it in since im tagging Michael)

tchau ( Portuguese completely random )

okay enough byes im turning of the translator

memorable chatters

ok so i have been a chat junky for some years now i tend to have burst of action though.
since i have been back chatting it has reminded me of a few memorable chaters i have met over the years. it sounds like the dark ages but i didnt have the net at home growing up, i was deprived lol no i grew up on the edge of "generation net" so we didnt have it. anyways so i used to go chatting at jens place and used yahoo chat and we used her name.
1. chatter is the first person that tired to cyber with us lol ill never forget it he asked us what we were wearing and jen types habit thinking it will turn him off he types where r u? jen types church my child, he says not giving up i come in out of the rain and jen types i give u an umbrella he tries to carry it on , man we stumble on the guy with a nun fetish! or he was just desperate anyways there was no way were going to cyber with him 3 reasons
1. we were 17 and lacked the imagination (okay we really didnt if u saw the letters that we used to write to one another lol, but im sticking with this to make me look innocent)
2. cyber 3soms really dont work cos the 2 could just get it on in the flesh and bugger of the net 3rd!
3. we were in jens lounge room and she lived at home, communal lounge room for the family enough said.

2. chatter was his name was green ninja anyway back story is i had the huge crush on a guy in my class name ben and ben tried to convince me that my Japaneses teacher was a ninja that night on chat we run into a guy name green ninja and we think maybe its ben from school since his last name has green in it
anyways we start calling him ben and say thats his new name, he goes along with it!!, jen emailed him for a while and he would signed the emails off as ben lol too funny

3. then when Adrian and i moved in together i got an email and started chatting on msn. i met this guy yeah so memorable i for get his name i want to say David but it wasn't any way he was from the north of nsw and drove dump trucks. any way we were regulars in the aus chat room and soon we were going into other rooms to piss ppl off heheh we went into the Christian room and told them we were living together and they got so upset with us they banned us fro an hour so when the hour was up we were back in again telling them crap and we got banned for 12 hours lol the next night we went back in and started cycbering with each other in their main room with censored language though and then got a lifetime ban lol

4. was the first person i did cyber with i again dont remember her name but it was good so thats all i have to say about that

5. i met another guy from melb i stated chatting to him cos his name was the reverse of my step dads weird he went to uni cant remember what he did we chatted for over a year, eventually i scared him off i think he thought i was into him ( i wasnt!) he got a gf and didnt come on msn anymore what ever

6. the last one ill post about was a girl from egypt i was chatting to her and unknowingly to me i was also chatting to her brother he was chatting under a different name. anyways she wanted to cyber with me and sent me naked pics of herself (stupid girl i still have them for some reason??)
Anyway the next thing i know ther reveal they are brother and sister and they are fucking and start telling me all the stuff they are doing to each other soo gross!!! At this point im totally regretting adding her on msn so after that I had to hide from her when she came on line or say I was Adrian so she would leave me alone but she did still email me more naked pictures of herself so weird! wish she was hotter but she is still a freak who has sex with her brother so kinda takes a way from any sexiness she may have by being a freak!

clubman of the year

so adrian plays cricket in our local district for our local club bradbury.
he started playing in the 2001/2002 season the year we got married. so he has been playing for 7 years. and i have been scoring these last 7 years, something i really enjoy doing, i love watching them, the wins the losses, the semis and the one grand final that crushed us (and made adam cry lol)
anyways adrian does at lot for the club, plays seniors in our team which he shares captain duties, coaches the under 10 side, does the record keeping for the club (recording all the stats for all the clubs players) is on the executive as secretary, and represents Bradbury at the the district executive meetings.
so this year adrian was named clubman of the year! yay adrian!
he actually had a feeling he was getting it as it was his job to organise and get the trophies engraved for the presentation and thats was the trophy they didnt give to adrian.
what we both didnt know is our friend and team member MF along with the rest of the team nominated me for the award, they put the nomination in after it was decided adrian was to get it so the club decided to give it to both of us
soo cool.
before they announced it they were saying who could qualify for it and ernie the president mentioned scorers and i had said joking around 'hey i could get it!' lol then they call my name too funny.
anyway i was really touched!! it was cool that my name is now on the perpetual trophy too.

last year maria thomas who is the junior secretary was inducted into lifetime membership for the club after 13 yrs on the executive thats soo cool, one day i would like to get that.

could i live by myself?.......um NO!

on monday night i was downstairs from 5pm and at 6 i went back up to do something and had to turn the light on in the lounge room. when i did so the light blew. actually it not only blew it exploded. so the power tripped and i was left in complete darkness. i made my way down stairs ( difficult when my eyes have trouble adjusting in the dark) and outside to the power box. now i have never had to turn the power back on so i didnt now which switch i had to turn and couldnt really see as it was dark. so i thought my only option was to sit in darkness or by the glow of my computer until adrian go home at 7pm so only an hour lol. about 40 minutes later my boss rang as asked was the power off since the centre and house power are connected to the one power box. and the centre alarm must of been effected. i said it was but i didnt know which switch to turn on and adrian was about 20 mins away. she told me she will come over and turn it back on for me. to which i felt so guilty because she was at her mum's place for her birthday. so embarrassing! anyways adrian came home 2 minutes later so she didnt have to come over.
i felt so embarrassed. so i couldnt live by myself when i couldnt even turn my power back on if a light bulb blew! omg!

MY BLOOD RUNS BLUE FOR NSW!

i thought i better post this now before the game just in case we loose(im a true fan i know we will win!) because if we do ill be soo angry i wont be able to write it.

like many ppl in nsw and qld tonight ill sit down to watch the first of three state of origin rugby league matches. these are the games to watch if u only watch 3 matches all year. state pride is on the line. that being said the worst thing about the days leading up to the game it highlights how many nsw ppl who barrack for qld. ahhhh i cant stand when this happens and often wonder why? i was born and breed in NSW for me there is no other option but to go for the Blues. but i know many ppl who were also born and breed in nsw and go for qld. there seams to be many reasons why they do this.
1. they follow broncos (other disgusting sin for a nsw person to do!)
2. they live close to the border. ( still u live in NSW!)
3. their family/parents relocated to nsw so gave them no real choice but to follow qld growing up.
4. mystery reason, they just follow qld.
i understand that is hard to go for a state team that is full of players you dont like and the other team is full of players who u love, i understand families push their team choices onto children. so these two reason may be excusable, i said may!

state of origin for me is the game you want to play, i think its bigger and better then test spot, playing for Australia, state of orgin is a better competition then a test match against nz or uk. i believe this so much i have said if i was playing footy and was given an opportunity to sign first grade, an event i have longed and waited for, but the team was broncos, storm, cowboys, warriors, i wouldnt sign as it means i would not be able to play for NSW. and if i did sign with them having no choice but to sign then was picked in the QLD side i would turn it down, even though this would cost me a spot on the Australian team. i could not play in a maroon jersey

another thing i love about the game is the state bet between the premiers, this years bet is the loosing state's premier has to have a signed framed jersey of the winning state hung in their office for a year. at least that only effects them, i would hate to loose the bet where we have to fly the qld flag on the harbour bridge.

anyways one last thing to say GO NSW!!

wonders in Erskineville, don't mess with 5 year olds!

my step brothers and step sister live in marrickville, which is about a 40 minute drive from us in campbelltown. and sits about 20 minutes from the cbd of sydney (im going on the drive it takes including traffic.)
anyways occasionally i drive them home on sundays and tonight i drove them home and dropped my step dad off at erskineville on the way home (erskinville is 5 mins from marrickville) i took Jack with me for the drive.
i had never drove and being driven to erskineville before, ever! and by the time we go there is was after 6.30 so already dark. i dropped him off 2 streets from the highway and it was simple to get back out. but stupid me on the way back out turned right instead of left, i kinda knew instantly that i made a wrong turn but proceeded the wrong way as i was 100% sure. when i got to botany rd i knew i was way off. i pulled into the maccas on the corner to get jack a happy meal and call adrian so he could direct me back to newtown. when i called him he was supper pissed off as he thought i would be almost home by this point and had dinner 5 minutes from the table so instead of helping me he started yelling, which caused me to hang up and continue back form the way i came and try to find the street i need to get back on. in the end i drove around for 20 minutes trying to find this street. and i did stop and looked through my car for the street directory which adrian had taken out yesterday (why i dont know!!) then i called adrian needing desperate help i was stuck in some abandon streets in erskineville industrial area, 7pm on a sunday. adrian didnt answer the phone, now im supper pissed off myself thinking his not answering cos he is being a prick, and scared i might be wondering around all night. anyway i eventually find my way and kicked my self of the stupid mistake i did. and when we get back on the Pacific highway Jack immediately says "now we know where we are, we are on our way home from erskineville!"
then jack and i bitch about how adrian took the street directory out of the car and how he didnt answer the phone. Jack was going on "he is sooo naughty adrian!, im very angry at him! im going to punch him when i see him" the phone rings and jack answers it saying to adrian "we are very angry at you adrian! taking the maps out of the car, we got lost!, we were scared, it was dark, and you didnt help us!" adrian hung up on jack "now im super angry at him!" he says so we call adrian back "im super angry at you now adrian! why did u hang up!" adrian had enough of jack yelling at him so i tell him im in leumeah and will be about 15 minutes. jack is still angry saying he wants to punch adrian, i say "we're not going to punch him, he needs to say sorry to us though" then jack says "no we should take the maps out next time he is driving somewhere, so when he gets lost, he'll call and we can laugh and say sucked in and he'll drive around lost while you cook dinner, and he'' be starving, and he wont even be able to go to maccas cos he'll be lost!" then he says "next time he is naughty to you lisa you call me and ill talk to him, he has to be nice to my sister!"
i thought it was soo cute, adrian is gonna have to make it up to him, but perhaps jack will forget by the next time he sees adrian he idolizes adrian so....
oh it turned out adrian didnt ignore my call he was in the shower and he was angry cos dinner was ruined!